Grace,

After putting everyone else first, how do I finally put myself first? I’m not sure I am able to—I’m 56 and I’ve been that way my whole life. And now with the grandkids living nearby, I am the go-to babysitter. I had them last weekend and I get them all weekend this weekend. I love my grandkids so much but taking care of them wears me out and I worry that if I try to pull back my daughter will withhold them from me. What do I do?

Signed,
On Call in Oakdale